One thing I try not to do though with some children is speak glowingly of massive Thanksgiving meals. I don't make books about Thanksgiving meals (although I have used familiar children's literature about these meals). North Carolina is ahead of the pack in food insecurity in children; and some of my students are among these who don't know where the next meal is coming from.
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I also do not suggest Thanksgiving menus or ask kids to draw pictures of what belongs on a Thanksgiving table.
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I try to be sensitive to the issues of my kids, as I think all of you are. I've seen anger in the eyes of my older students when I ask them what they did for Thanksgiving, so over the years, I've altered my questions to be more general. When coming off of Thanksgiving, I don't talk about the gluttony that I enjoyed with my own family. I'm blessed to be well off, but don't need to flaunt it.
I do spend a little time with the kids asking them what they are thankful for. Sometimes we do a group "thankful project"--everyone has something they can appreciate in their lives. The actual meal I've enjoyed, however, I keep low key, and only in vague terms, for they may not have had enough.
It's a balance---offer the vocabulary, use the words of the dominant culture, but don't raise anxiety levels in children who are in need.
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Very well written post! This is sound advice for all of us working in the schools. It's easy to forget that not all kids have the same experiences. After Christmas, I have the students tell me 1 thing they got for Christmas, and they have to stop with 1 thing. I've never had a kid not be able to tell me 1 thing.
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Thanks for your nice words. You and I have both learned to be careful with what we assume.
DeleteYour sensitivity to the circumstances of your students is a powerful reminder to us all. Thank you for sharing.
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